Monday, 23 April 2012

My Friends

I feel like my rambly first post doesn't really tell you much about me. Something I do a lot when people ask me about myself is tell them about people who are important to me. There are a handful of people, without whom, I probably wouldn't even be half the person I am now. These people are my anchors, they keep me sane and on a good path, I can never tell them enough how much I love them or how much they mean to me and inspire me to be a better person and always give 100% even if I only have 80. I feel this will be a long post so I would like to apologise up front and thank you whole heartedly if you bother reading to the end! :) 
I am not going to talk about my family in this post, my mum is the main person in my family as I have no brothers or sisters and my father hasn't been a part of my life since I was 4. I do have some beyond lovely cousins and an uncle but I don't see them very often, not for any reason in particular, just everyday life gets in the way and it's hard to find time when everyone is free, oh and one lives in South Africa! They are all incredibly important to me but this post is dedicated to my friends and my wonderful boyfriend.  
I am very lucky as I have always had lovely friends and the handful of friends I couldn't live without are people I have grown up with, some from the very beginning others since primary school. My boyfriend and three other people came into my life more recently but are just as important.  
Recently I have been reminiscing a lot and looking back and thinking about old and very good times. This is because the person I considered one of my very best friends, sadly no longer holds this title. I don't know a more eloquent way of putting unfortunately so that will have to do. It's a long story which I will probably tell another day, but for now lets just say it's a massive shame and was very avoidable, none the less it is the situation and I don't feel I have taken it very well. It's all very awkward and uncomfortable right now as we have always been a very tight knit group and I am conscious of not making anyone else feel uncomfortable, though of course it has effected others in our group to a degree.
I was in a dilemma as to whether I should include said person in this post as she has been a massive part of my life for the last 11 years but I think it's all a little bit too recent and angry and I don't want this blog to be negative as it is about wonderful people, so I have decided that for now I won't but will probably do a separate blog when it isn't so fresh and raw. 

Firstly, I would like to introduce my boyfriend, Arran.
He is 22, manages a charity shop, plays lead guitar in an awesome band (that I will probably talk about A LOT) and makes me whole. He has a beautiful soul, is incredibly kind and thoughtful and an all round lovely person. We have helped each other a lot since we met, we started out as friends and weren't sure at first whether to embark on a relationship in case it ruined our friendship, I'm so glad we both decided to take the plunge as I honestly don't know where I would be now without his love and support (I am not as all smooshy, even writing that down made me cringe and he will laugh if he reads this). When we met he was broken and I had problems of my own. My friends and I met him through another boy in his year he hung out with. He instantly intrigued me because he was so quiet but always looked like he was taking everything in, I knew he had a story and I needed to know what it was! My nosiness got the better of me and I bombarded him with questions and must have scared the wits out of him, poor boy! However a friendship grew and here we are today 5 years later, and my God am I glad we're here! I hope in another 5 years and another 50 we will still be here, guiding each other and still being just as important to one another!  
I love you so, so much my maghee, you are incredible, I am so proud of you, and everything you have overcome and acheived. You can do anything you put your mind to and I admire you so much.

My oldest friend is Natalie.
She lives about 10 doors from me and we went to the same child minder from when I was about a year old til we were 10/11. We have been at the same school since playschool and have always been incredibly close. She is beautiful, kind and incredibly hard working! She is forgetful and ditsy but in a charming way :) She is incredibly laid back and rarely lets anything get to her and hilarious isn't a big enough word. Her breasts are ridiculous! I've never known someone with so many friends! She can be hard to pin down between working every hour she can get and all her friends but we always find time for each other, she's my sister, I've never seen her any other way. We never describe each other as 'my best friend' 'my 1st friend' because in every way but biologically we are family. I don't remember not knowing her and I can't imagine life without her. I am 21 and a few months old and I have known her more than 20 of those years. She is a wonderful human being and has always been there for me when I need her, as have I for her. I love you Leroy, you daft tart :)

My best friend, Alba.
Ah Alba, she rocked up when I was 9, she started at our primary school in year 4 and was in the other class to me. She barely spoke English having just arrived from Albania and was the subject of much attention for her first couple of weeks. I didn't get to know her straight away as I felt she had enough people constantly surrounding her. I remember actually feeling a bit sad for her as she must have been very confused with all these children shouting things at her like 'Tree! Tree!' whilst pointing in the vague direction of a tree and a mass of other things. However, after a couple of weeks of her being at our school and her picking up English incredibly quickly we got chatting one lunch and have been friends ever since. I'm so glad her family decided to move to England and get a house near our school because if they hadn't I wouldn't know this amazing girl!
This beautiful young woman is one of the kindest, sweetest people I have ever had the fortune to meet and not only meet but have an amazing friendship with. Our friendship has grown and blossomed over the years, sometimes gradually and sometimes in great bounds, bringing us to this point today where I couldn't be without her. 
Funny is not the word, she has me in stitches all the time and her positivity towards life in general has helped me out on more than a few occassions! We have had some great holidays with Arran, Natalie and others too and I know we will continue you to do so for years to come. 
Love you Alba, you crazy minx!

I think I will leave this post here as it's got pretty long already and these are my 3 little monkeys I need to stay sane! I love my other special friends ridiculous amounts too and you will all get your turn but for now I will leave it here.
Adios amigos!


  1. Fab post Alex and lovely to meet (virtually) your boyfriend & best friends...They all look & sound wonderful! x

  2. Thanks Emma! Hopefully someday you can meet at least the boyfriend! :)